Well, it’s that time of year again. Valentine’s Day is only 8 days away and the stores are full of pink and red and the TV guide is flooding with romantic movies. For some people, Valentine’s Day is all about the chocolates and the gifts, but what about loving ourselves? As a society, we are consumed by what the world is telling us about this special day that we are so focused on raising our expectations for that perfect movie moment, rather than putting in the effort to shower ourselves with love.
Don’t get me wrong, as a hopeless romantic, I love this day because of all the cheesy movies and of course, the chocolate. But it doesn’t have to be all about romantic love.
This Valentine’s Day, let’s focus on loving and appreciating ourselves. Keep reading if you’re interested in how to make this Valentine’s Day one for the books.
1. Treat yourself
Now is the time to do things for yourself!! It is OKAY to be selfish every once and a while. By doing the things that you love to do, you’ll really see a positive difference in your mood. So open that box of chocolates or that bag of chips, settle down with a movie and enjoy! Or, if movies and junk food aren’t your thing, run yourself a nice bath and create an in-home spa day. Pampering yourself will force you to take a step out of your everyday routine and just…relax. You should be making time for yourself each and every day. So take this Valentine’s Day to treat yourself like the queen you know you are.
2. Practice positive affirmations
I find that intentionally speaking positively about yourself eventually leads to automatically thinking positively. It’s almost like you have to train your mind to be nice to you, which I totally get can be a struggle (trust me, I’ve been there). But by writing down a list of 5 or 10 positive things about yourself and reciting them every single day, can be extremely beneficial. Take a washable marker and write them on your mirror, post sticky notes all around your house, take a few minutes in the morning to tell yourself the things you love about yourself or the things you’re grateful for.
3. Rediscover your passion
Our busy lives can sometimes take us away from the things we love most. Life gets busy and chaotic and it’s not your fault that you fell off the wagon. It is, however, your responsibility to bring that happiness back into your life. This is the perfect time to focus on you. Jot down activities or practices that used to fill you with glee and get back into it. Make a weekly or monthly goal for yourself. Start with one activity and slowly work your way through your entire list. It will feel so good to get back into the habit and hopefully you can continue with it for as long as it brings you joy.
4. Start a new project
This can be exciting!! Taking on something new that you’ve always wanted to try or trying something that you’ve never thought of doing, can be inspiring! Again, write down a few ideas of things you want to include in your life and figure out how to do it. Vision boards are amazing ways of getting your thoughts out in a fun and creative way. So turn up the music, pour yourself a glass of wine and start creating!
5. Forget what others think
It may be the season of love, but who says you can’t buy yourself flowers or treat yourself to a nice dinner?? Just because you may not have a partner at the moment, does not mean that you can’t feel the love of the day just like everyone else. Now this definitely takes confidence, I’m not even sure if I’d be able to sit in a restaurant with a bunch of couples gazing into each other’s eyes … but that’s not the point! The point is, if you feel like you want to get out, then go out. Thinking about what other’s think of us is a poisonous habit that really takes away all happiness. I bet people will look at you with admiration because of how confident you are.
No matter what your plans are this Valentine’s Day, if you’re spending it by yourself, with your partner, your friends or your family, the most important thing is that you love and appreciate yourself. The most important relationship anyone can have is with the person in the mirror.