As the year comes to a close, we have the chance to reflect on the person that we were this past year. We can celebrate all of the victories and successes and learn from the mistakes and downfalls. The new year is all about starting over and wiping the slate clean. The most important thing about starting a new year is leaving the unhealthy habits in the past!! So with that being said, I’m going to list 6 poisonous habits to leave before the clock strikes midnight on December 31st.
1) Comparing yourself to others
This has to be one of the worst habits out there! I’m going to be honest, this always was and still is something I struggle with. In the past, I would constantly compare myself to others and wonder why I wasn’t as pretty or talented or likeable. It was an ongoing cycle of self-hate and unhappiness. After a few years of working on myself, I realized that there’s no use comparing my life to someone else’s because I didn’t know what was going on behind closed doors. The people I was comparing myself to could’ve been the complete opposite of what they portrayed. Although it’s very challenging to just step back and appreciate your life, we need to learn that everyone is at a different point in their lives and instead of being jealous, we should be excited. Our time will come. Remember, “a flower does not think of competing to the flower next to it. It just blooms.”
2) Waiting for the perfect moment
I think people have a fascination with this thing called “the perfect moment” – waiting to do something huge and earth-shattering until the time when everything is perfect. I really don’t want to burst anyone’s bubble because I like to stay optimistic about things, but there is no such thing as a perfect moment. We are not guaranteed how many days, weeks, months, years we have left on this planet, so why wait for a moment when you could be doing your thing right now?! Life is not perfect – it’s full of twists and turns and bumps in the road and if we wait for the perfect moment, all we’re doing is wasting valuable time!! I encourage you to forget about waiting for the stars to align and go do what you gotta do. It will be scary, but it’s a heck of a lot more worth it then waiting around in hopes that this perfect moment will appear.
3) Dwelling on the past
How many times have you found yourself looking back at a not so great moment and wishing you could do anything to change it? I can definitely raise my hand for this one. It’s so common for us to be upset or even a little ashamed of things that have happened in the past. It’s even more common to want to change what happened. Unfortunately, they haven’t figured out time travel just yet so going back to a time in your life to fix that one thing, won’t be possible. It sucks. I totally get that. But dwelling on the things that you can’t change will only drive you up the wall. We need to learn that those things happened and there is nothing we can do to change it. The only thing we can do is learn from the past and prepare for the future. I’m telling you, it’s not worth it to waste your energy on something that can’t be changed. Stop looking back, you’re not going that way.
4) Letting criticism run your life
I’m sure at one point or another, we have all received criticism. It could’ve been positive or negative, but nonetheless, it was a chance for us to learn from a mistake. Oftentimes, people don’t know how to take criticism – even if it’s positive. Face it, nobody really likes being told that they did something wrong or that they need a little bit more practice. I’m not going to lie, it can be pretty awkward, but majority of the time, that person is only trying to help you!! Now, there’s two ways that people can handle the situation: 1) take it, learn from it and move on OR 2) carry it with them for a long time. I encourage you to practice #1 but there are lots of people who hold onto their criticism and let it run their life. Holding onto that negativity won’t help you in the future, it will only make you lose hope in yourself and your abilities.
5) Being too serious
If I haven’t said it enough, life is short! Being stuffy and serious all the time is no fun and will drive people away from you. I understand that you can’t continuously be bouncing off the walls with energy, but feeding off of people’s positive vibes and incorporating them into your own life is a lot better than sitting around acting all mopey. I’ve said it already and I will continue to say it, life is too short to not have fun. Do what you want to do, act silly, go on adventures, blast your music, have mini dance parties in your room, smile at people on the street, be kind.
6) Holding onto toxic relationships
We are heavily influenced by the people we surround ourselves with. If you’re enmeshed in a group of people who encourage you, motivate you, believe in you and love you, don’t let them go! If you’re confined to a group of people who put you down, judge you or make you feel unsafe/uncomfortable, you need to find a way out. I know it can be scary and difficult to leave, especially if you don’t have anyone else, but it will all be worth it in the end. It’s insanely important that you feel safe in your family, friend groups and relationships! Holding onto toxic people will only drag you down further and I know you deserve more.
I sincerely hope that if you struggle with any of the unhealthy habits listed, you have learned something and are ready to make a change. The new year is all about starting over and adopting new practices. I know I will be. I hope you will too.